Any woman knows that most men love breasts. From your stash of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issues to the way you ogle our chests in low-cut tops (um, our eyes are up here, guys!), it’s obvious that you like to look.
So, tell me: If you love breasts so much, why do you so often neglect or manhandle them during sex? The truth is, that while our breasts may be a pleasure to behold, they’re even more of a pleasure to a woman when held (and caressed) correctly.
In one study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, nipple/breast stimulation caused or enhanced sexual arousal in 82 percent of women, yet 25 percent asked their partner to stop stimulating their nipples/breasts during lovemaking. That’s a sign that many guys need some help in translating their appreciation into action.
Here’s a quick course in Breasts 101
• Breast sensitivity can vary quite a bit from woman to woman, with smaller breasts generally being more sensitive than larger ones. Also, breast surgery (including implants) can impair sensitivity, depending on whether the surgery preserves the nerve responsible for the nipple/areola area.
• Speaking of nipples, contrary to popular belief, they are not the most sensitive part of the female breast. The tops, bottoms and sides respond the most to stimulation. So think of yourself as the equivalent of a living comfy bra, one that can massage and support (and even lick) those areas, too.
• A woman’s breast sensitivity also varies with her menstrual cycle; many women even find their breasts too sensitive to touch in the days just before their period.
OK, enough fun facts—on to the advanced stuff
Want to know why breast stimulation is so pleasurable for most women? It’s all about oxytocin. This feel-good substance, also known as the “cuddle hormone,” is released when the breasts and nipples are stimulated—even during breastfeeding. Oxytocin is also responsible for the nipple becoming erect during excitement and stimulation, caused by contraction of smooth muscle underneath the skin of the areola, which pulls on the overlying skin creating a goose bump-like effect.
So next time you’re enjoying her breasts, think about what you can do to increase her enjoyment, too. Start off slow, with gentle pressure. Most women find this approach to be the most intense. Then, as her excitement builds, increase the simulation with more intense pressure, sucking, pinching, nibbling, etc. The hotter she gets, the more she can handle. Breasts can increase in size about 25 to 30 percent when a woman becomes sexually aroused and can tolerate stronger stimulation. If you’re unsure what to do, encourage her to show you and touch her own breasts—that can be a turn-on for both of you.
As the breasts continue to receive stimulation, oxytocin continues to be released into the bloodstream. The hormone’s most intense effects occur within the first 5 minutes after release, but can continue to increase uterine contractions for up to an hour. And the more you stimulate her breasts, the more oxytocin her body releases. The result? Her orgasms will be stronger and feel like they’re affecting her whole body.
As discussed in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, about 1 percent of women can experience an orgasm just from having their breasts and nipples stimulated! So next time you want to appreciate her breasts, try to boost her into that 1 percent with these tricks—and reward both of you with her pleasure.