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Don’t Analyze Your Woman

3 Comments 24 November 2010

The amazing thing is this: 90% of a woman’s emotional problems stem from feeling unloved. So don’t stand back and analyze her, like a doctor diagnosing a patient, or like a therapist questioning a client. Give her your love – the same love that is motivating your questioning – immediately and unmistakably. Walk over to her, look deeply into her eyes, hold her and stroke her, tell her how much you love her, smile, hum her favorite song and dance with her, and chances are, her emotional problem will evaporate. She may still have some situation to deal with, and you may be able to help her with that, but the emotional aspect will be converted to love.

It is a very rare occasion when your analysis of her mood relieves her of it. Most often, your analysis and attempts to fix her will just piss her off more. Ask her if she would rather you gave her love or analyzed her when she is upset. It’s so easy to give her love; it’s what both of you really want anyway. But as a man you are more likely to try to fix her. That’s exactly not what she wants, and exactly what will make the situation worse, most of the time.

~David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

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  1. TriMarkC says:

    Actually, excellent advice! I don’t always remember to do this, but when I do, the results on my wife’s emotional well-being make me go, “DUHH! Should do that more often!”

  2. Nicole says:

    As a Femme, I recommend this advice! I don’t always expect my man to provide a solution to whatever is bothering me at the time, but when he listens to me, and shows me that he understands WHY it’s bothering me, I feel relieved, it’s like a weight lifted off my shoulders! And after that, I’m more likely to consider any advice he shares with me, too. It’s win/win for both of us really, because whenever we give empathy and advice to each other, the result is that we both feel validated *and* supported. Not sayin’ that either of us give the best advice for each other’s situation all the time, it brings us closer to each other, not to mention a wider look at the bigger picture….Whoever said a problem shared is a problem halved had the right idea 🙂

    Peace, pleasure and love,

    Nic x

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